“You could’ve done better…” they whisper over the grade on my latest test.
“Everyone else will think…” they declare over my decisions.
“That’s because you just aren’t good enough…” they proclaim freely in open criticism.
Most days, or at least on my best ones, I live confidently, loving who God made me. But in the not-so-great moments, my insecurities happily illuminate every flaw.
They’ve stolen more than a few confidant smiles. They’ve pulled me away from areas of God’s leading. Combined, they’ve caused hours of unnecessary anxiousness.
The struggle with insecurity is so real. And because they are so common, I’ve found myself brushing insecurities off as “little things”. But when we look at our insecurities for what they are, it’s clear they take away from the life God wants us to live.
“Insecure” usually describes people struggling to find confidence or boldness. But it can also mean to be “not confident or sure (uncertain), not adequately guarded or sustained (unsafe), not firmly fastened or fixed (shaky), not highly stable or well-adjusted, deficient in assurance” *
Look at those words: Uncertain. Unsafe. Shaky. Lacking assurance.
Each describes how we feel when we are consumed by insecurities. Yet each is the exact opposite of how God wants us to live.
God wants us to live in confidence, safety, and stability. Things only truly experienced when we place our identity in Him. (Psalm 62:1-2, 1 Corinthians 15:58, Psalm 16:8, Hebrews 10:22, Ephesians 3:12)
But our insecurities begin with an overvaluing of meaningless opinions, and an undervaluing of God’s identity defining declarations.
The thing is, other people will always have their own view of how we should look, act, and live. A view rarely realistic and is quick to point out flaws.
But although it may sting to miss the standards of the people we want to be accepted by, their opinion is not our final identity.
At least not the one we were meant to cling to.
In contrast, in Jesus’s eyes His daughters will always be seen as completely flawless. Not because of anything we did, but because of everything He did.
Ephesians 5:25b-27 says:
“just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.”
By dying on the cross, He gave us a way to be permanently washed of imperfection in the eyes of God. And as believers, the labels He places on us are “holy”, “blameless”, and “flawless”.
Instead of permanently declaring us flaw-filled, He did the work to make us flawless.
And since that’s who Jesus declares we are, those are the characteristics we should claim as our identity. Not because we deserve it in any way, but simply because He loves us and accepts us–just as we are.
In Him alone, we find true confidence, and complete security.
Let’s actively fill our minds with the new identity God gives us, rather than the labels of “not enough” that other standards would assign us. Then, our insecurities have no room to thrive.
So step out today, knowing that you are loved. You are valued. And you are enough, just as you are!