We are in the midst of a mass weakening of women. But it’s not something that can be strengthened with words like equality, choice, or feminism.
No, we are weakening ourselves by accepting false forms of womanhood, while God’s design is being torn apart, rejected, and labeled as irrelevant.
And in the faces of girls who have laid aside true womanhood, I only see hurt.
Hurt because they are no longer satisfied with their role in the world. Hurt because without realizing it, they’ve rejected God’s best while searching for something ‘greater’.
They know something is missing in modern womanhood. But they don’t know what it really is. So on they march. Pressing for change. Trying to empower us with the world’s definitions of strong womanhood.
But they are blind to the real problem. Every small victory they make will never be enough to resolve this sense that something is missing.
You see, we must understand that we were created for a specific role. And we will only be satisfied as women, when we are satisfied with God’s design for women.
His design for our lives comes from a place of deep love.
It will never hold us back from something better, or put us in a box of boring and ordinary! Rather, it propels us into the personal blessings that come from obedience to His design.
In Him, we have clear purpose and direction for our lives. But if we reject womanhood the way He defines it, we only deprive ourselves.
Here are some important characteristics of God’s design for women:
One : Live out dignity.
I love the way Glynnis Whitwer explains dignity:
“My dictionary defines it [dignity] as “‘the quality or state of being worthy, honored or esteemed.” Based on that definition and the entire chapter of Proverbs 31, I believe a woman clothed in dignity is one who knows who she is in Christ, and chooses to act in ways consistent with her high calling as a child of God.”
Two : Have wisdom, and give godly advice.
We need to be wise when it comes to both life and spiritual matters, and then we need to be able to share that wisdom with others who will ask us for advice.
(Proverbs 31:26, Proverbs 1:7, Proverbs 4:6-7)
Three : Embrace our God-given role within the home.
Our culture says ‘simply’ raising godly kids isn’t good enough. Sadly, many women believe this huge role needs to be substituted with a real career. But raising the next generation is not a distraction from something more important! It’s actually one of the most important jobs we could ever have.
Of course, God might not call all of us to be moms. But if that is part of His plan for us, we need to fully embrace it!
(Malachi 2:15 — NKJV makes a bit more sense 🙂 Proverbs 127:3-5, Proverbs 31:27).
Four : Pursue purity and modesty.
If we are saved, our bodies are no longer our own. They are temples of the Holy Spirit. As a result, God calls us to respect our bodies by pursuing purity and modesty.
(1 Corinthians 6:13,19-20)
Five : Be gracious, generous and kind.
We need to use our words, actions, and resources to bless and serve other people, while avoiding things that would hurt them.
(1 Timothy 3:11, Proverbs 31:20)
Six : Value a gentle and quiet spirit.
I’ve heard people claim that being gentle and quiet shows a lack confidence, or is the result of female oppression. But gentle doesn’t mean weak, and this explanation of a gentle character is downright deceiving (and frankly, it’s insulting).
God wants us to be strong! But strength needs to be accompanied by gentleness, rather than a rough, arrogant, or boisterous spirit. And having a gentle and quiet strength is one of the most beautiful characteristics a woman can have.
(1 Peter 3:3-4, plus, Proverbs 31:17, Proverbs 31:25, Judges 4, and the book of Esther, are a few examples of strong yet gentle women in the Bible).
Seven : A deep love for the Lord!
This is by far the most important thing a woman can possess.
A deep love for God comes from spending time with Him. And the evidence of our love for Him is shown when we value Him, His words, and His calling on our lives above anything else. Even above outward appearances and people’s opinions!
(Proverbs 31:30, Deuteronomy 10:12, Revelation 2:4)
True womanhood isn’t easier, but it’s so much more rewarding!
So let’s abandon the popular, false womanhood that will never satisfy, and instead pursue God’s perfect, love-filled design for His daughter’s. Because in the end, it’s all worth it!
I’d love to hear from you! Do you have an example of how adopting God’s design for womanhood has proved to be a more satisfying and fulfilling way to live?